Adoption

How do I tell my son about his real father?

Rent the movie Three Men and a Baby or Three Men and a Little Lady.  Watch it together.  Then explain that he has a biological father, and a father who raised him.

My husband and I have tried for 8 years to have a baby.  We want to adopt, but it costs over $10,000!!  Meanwhile, there is this single woman at work who "accidentally" got pregnant, and she kept her baby!  It just makes me so mad.  Here I did everything the right way, waiting until I got married, and she is the one who gets rewarded with a healthy baby, not me!  If single moms like her would give their babies up for adoption like they should, then there would be more babies for my husband and I to adopt.  Every time she brings her baby into work, or shows new pictures of him, I just want to scream!

You need to calm down and get some counseling.  People should give up their babies because they are bad parents or can't provide for them, not just because they are single.  You should look into being a foster parent, often times you get the opportunity to adopt.  You also need to look into more adoption agencies, and find one that costs less.

My son is over 18 wants to meet his real father.  I left his father for a reason.  I have never talked him down, but I am embarrassed that I ever had anything to do with him!  We are talking numerous illegitimate children, drugs, prison record, unemployed, etc.  What do I do?

Explain to your son that this is the one time in his life when he gets to choose his own relatives.  Instead of calling his father and expecting a big reunion, suggest that he stop by where his father is working or hanging out with his friends.  Have him spend an evening with his dad, and get to know him a bit before he decides if this is someone he wants in his life.

I Was Told copyright 2006