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DATING H i there, I noticed someone mentioned the www.dontdatehimgirl.com website on this forum. I posted someone on this site and he has asked me to take it down several times. regardless, I thought I would let it stay as I only really posted what I know is the truth. he has now told me that his brother is a lawyer and will be suing for defamation, copyright etc.I have asked the actual DDHG website for help and advice but no response to date (its been a month already). maybe you guys can help me. Any thoughts?
-- He has no proof that you put it up
there, and he can't sue you. If you will notice, there are several
lawyers on
www.dontdatehimgirl.com and they can't figure out how to remove
themselves.
Hi. I'm 21 and I have a wonderful
boyfriend who I have been with for over two years. I love him dearly
and I could not imagine life without him. However, I have recently
become very attracted to one of my best girl friends. I fantasize
about having sex with girls a lot and I never fantasize about men. I
have made out with girls on two separate occasions, but I have never
gone past that. -- You are better off figuring out your sexual orientation now, than having it break up your marriage and family in a few years. Take a break from your boyfriend, and try to figure out things. You already know this girl is interested in you, just let her know that you are available. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. It seemed like fate. Not only did our friends who introduced us think we were perfect together, but we could see it and feel it too. Everything has been wonderful. We have been having fun in every way, as well as learning so much about each other. But overnight, it all went the other direction. He said he was confused with himself, and needed to get his priorities together. He said he needed space. Which to me sound like bye. But he said he didn't want me to disappear, just give him time. Ok then! But he doesn't' want to talk on the phone, see me, or anything. I take that as he wants nothing to do with me. He says he mad at himself and doesn't want to say anything wrong to me. but want a future with me after he has his space. What should I think of this? -- How long have you been giving him space? Days, weeks? I had a boyfriendbreak up with me, then 3 weeks later he called because he missed me. I wish there were a hard and fast rule. I'm in love with this guy my ex to be exact and I want him back he acts like he does but then he doesn't I don't no what to do I'm so depressed and I've told him I want him back but I never get a answer. -- I am so sorry. It is heart wrenching to be rejected. Please try to move on, obviously he has. Get some exercise, find some new activities to occupy your time. I started seeing this guy about 4 months ago and we used 2 text every day without fail and now he never bothers 2 even text me back so I have 2 call him 2 speak 2 him! its great while I'm with him but it's horrible when I'm not! does he still want 2 be with me or am I being paranoid? I really care about him and I don't want 2 lose him! -- At the beginning of a relationship, you are in a "sparkly" stage, when you can't get enough of each other. Relax a little. If you appear to clingy, he will run for the hills. My boyfriend says that he has a foot fetish. I am totally cool with this and would like to explore it with him. however, he says that he can't have love and feet with one woman. the last woman he tried this with ended up cheating on him. he told me last night that he loves me and will never have sex with anyone else, but that I have to be willing for him to go with some other woman to put her feet on his face. I don't understand and would love if you have some insight on this. we have dated 10 months and live together. thank you. oh, I'm 34 and he's 40 -- You have offered to explore his fetish with him, and he has turned you down. It is NOT okay for him to explore this fetish with other women. The choice is up to him, you, or strange feet. I've been living with my boyfriend for a year. We get along great except that I get jealous at times. He recently opened a "Myspace" account and now ex girlfriends and old girls from high school chat with him online. Some of these girls are very flirty with him, even though they know he has a girlfriend. One girl wrote that "he is so handsome, she wished he wasn't taken" She gave him her phone number and he has it in his phone now. The whole thing makes me sick! When I get upset about it he says he loves me, he would never cheat on me and I'm over reacting, and pushing him away with all my jealousy...I have been cheated on in past relationships and I can't help that I get nervous easily. I think it is horrible that he chats with girls that have been with him in the past or wish they could be with him now. What should I do? Am I over reacting? -- I can understand why you are jealous, but try to understand how this feels to him. He is so happy with you, that he is thoroughly enjoying throwing it in the face of all his ex-girlfriends. Can you see how happy that makes him? Remember, you are LIVING with him, they only get to chat on-line with you. You have it made. I've been involved with a guy for 3 years. He finally told me he wasn't interested in pursuing a real relationship because I am diabetic and because of my heart rate unable to workout. (I'm 120lbs and 5'6") (I'm not fat.) He works out a lot. He's a liar. A cheater. What I want to know is how to close the door and get over the pain he has caused me. I've never been ashamed of my disease and now feel like it is something I should apologize for. I feel like I need to tell him what a jerk he is. . .but just can't. How do I let him know what he said is very cruel. I asked him to tell me the truth...but seriously who says that to someone? -- You poor thing, you deserve a hug. He is a complete louse. Even so, it is hard to get over someone that you have spent that much time with. There is a wonderful movie with great tips for getting past a bad relationship called Letting Go, 1985 with John Ritter. Watch it with some close friends and a bottle of wine. Take notes. I wish you the best! How do I get rid of my boyfriend? We live together in an apartment and we have a baby. He got fired 6 times this year, mostly for being late to work or not showing up. He smokes pot, stays out all night, and doesn't help with the baby. I have tried telling him that it isn't working, but he won't move out. I want to stay where it is rent-controlled. What do I do? -- Get a new lease for the apartment, with just your name on it. While he is sleeping, put some of his clothes in the trunk of the car, and take his apartment key off his key ring. Call him a couple hours after he has left for work, and tell him he no longer lives there, his name is not on the lease, he doesn't have a key, and if he tries to break in, you will have him arrested. I have been dating this guy on and off (more on than off) for about 3 1/2 years. We are both young, and we are also high school sweethearts. Well, I live in VA and he is moving to FL. It has been really hard lately with mixed emotions about our relationship and where we stand. I have a lot of issues with him and his maturity level, which is the site of most of our problems. For example, he would rather party than get a job, he doesn't think about money at all, and even if he knows he needs to get something important done, if a drinking buddy calls, he totally forgets about it. Another problem started is his brother. When he is with his brother, it is like he is a completely different person. He doesn't care to talk to me when he is with him or if we have plans and his brother calls him up... he DROPS ME LIKE A BAG OF ROCKS. I don't know what to do. It is getting to be too much. I need advice. -- I know it is hard to give up your "first love", but you can't spend over 3 years in a relationship that isn't working. Maybe moving away will help him become more independent and responsible. You can keep in touch, but you need to start seeing new people. I met, and started dating a guy a couple months ago. . .we fell for each other pretty fast. . .he wants us to live together, and all the fun stuff that comes with it. My Question is. . .how do I know if he's really serious? He tells me he loves me, and wants to be together as much as possible. . . he is being very supportive of a new career path I am pursuing. Does this seem too good to be true? Or do you think I finally found THE man? -- Sometimes when someone pushes for a
quick commitment, it can mean they are controlling. But if you don't
see anything wrong, and you still get time to yourself and your own
friends, you should be fine. I hope you did find THE man! Good luck! I have been seeing this guy for seven months. I really like the
guy. He told me about an ex girlfriend from a long time ago. Says they
are just friends now. She lives in another state so I have not met
her. This guy is under a lot of stress at work and is suffering from
depression. He wants a little weekend vacation. I am fine with that
until I found out that his ex/friend is going to meet him there. He
says I can trust him, but I had to find that she was going to show up
on my own and confront him before he would admit it. He has offered to
cancel the trip, but he is ready to crack and he does need to get
away. Now what do I do? I like these two guys, one I met at my first prom he is really handsome and I use to talk to him, the other one I met through my friend's Wednesday night at church. both I met through my friend. I really like the first guy I met through prom, but I want to get to know him better and I really want to go out with him. what should I do? I like the other guy from church but I really want to go out with the guy with prom, what should I do? -- Be super nice to both of them, and wait and see which one asks you out. I recently meet a man who is 14 years older than me. I am 24 and he is 38. He has three little girls. I do not have any children and recently graduated from university with an education degree. I am trying to start a life for myself. We went to a wedding dance the other evening and had a great time. All of his friends are of course older. My parents think he is far too old and so do my friends. I don not know him very well but we seem to click. My question is what should I do about this situation. On one hand I do feel he is too old for me but I think it is wrong to judge some one because they are older and have children. I am confused and nervous at the same time HELP --Yes, 14 years is a big age difference. But you are an adult with a college degree. Keep your eyes wide open and give him a try. You might be glad you did. What if you think your in love but the person you love has no
feelings towards you at all, and they live about 20 to 30 miles away
and you are not old enough to drive to them? I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I am 21 and he is 24. He just got this great job offer and it will start December 1st of this year. The problem is, the job is 6 hours away. I am taking classes to be a registered nurse I have about 2 years left and I will be done. We've been living together for 2 years. So he wants to buy a house in this new area where he will be living. I was going to stay here a year and decide if I want to go or stay. So my main problem is I don't know if I should go to Indiana with him or stay in Michigan. We have been dating for 3 years and he said he doesn't want to get engaged or married for a while. My whole problem is he wants me to move with him and live with him and go to school but I feel if I'm going to commit that much like moving to a different state and leaving my family I don't think I should go with no ring. I think that I shouldn't go because I should wait until he pops the question. My question to you is should I stay or go, wait for the ring or decide the ring isn't important. I just feel like we should at least be engaged for me to move all that way away from my family, cause it sounds pretty stupid moving out of state with a boyfriend. Sincerely, Clueless -- I know you are both very young, and it's a good idea to wait until you are 25 to get married. But after dating for 3 years, and living together for 2, I would want a ring before I moved 6 hours away and changed schools. If he is making good money, he can pay to have you fly out and visit him. After 6 months you can both re-evaluate where your relationship is, and where it is going. My ex-friend and her boyfriend set me up with one of their friends, we talked on instant message for a while but never met. I called him my prince charming. we had a lot in common. It went downhill when he told me something I got freaked out and told my parents and they forbid me to talk to him. We stopped talking and I somehow got him talking to me but once he found out it was me, let's just say it didn't go well. I really miss him, but he won't talk to me plus he found a girl. I don't want to break them up but I really wanted to go out with him, because before we even wanted to go out he told me something that my parents thought were bad. I don't want to get made fun of, but I think I still like or like like him. I used love in the subject but I don't want him to know because I'm scared he will get mad at me. I even wrote a song about him and I. Right now I'm single and he found himself a girl. I even copied all his pictures to my computer and put one of his pictures as my background. I really miss him, but I don't know if he feels the same about me, its been a long time. I can't let it go, and he says too, but I can't. Please help me. -- You need to get over this guy, move forward, and date someone you have met in person, someone who doesn't have a girlfriend. You are having a fantasy relationship with someone you have put on a pedestal. You have no idea what he is like on a day-to-day basis. I met this guy at a party my friend had, he's completely my type. He had everyone laughing like crazy, he's sweet, cute, and more importantly he showed interest in me. The night ended with some kissing and now I feel kind of bad because he was drunk when it happened. Although when I said that to him he said that it wasn't because he was drunk he had to get me away from someone first. Things have kind of fizzled out and I'm not sure how to approach asking him on a date. I've mentioned hanging out with him and he said he wanted to but neither of us come up with a day or anything. I think I need to keep him interested any advice? --Ask him out for a planned event. Be confident, and make it sound fun. The worst he can do is say no. Hello. I have been dating a guy for close to eight years. He has cheated on me with the same girl twice, he was supposedly dating her for a couple of months and then once I found out he stopped but then dated her again. I have also cheated on him and although it doesn't appear like a healthy relationship, we honestly complete each other, its a mutual codependency issue I think. I'm so scared of being alone and I suffer from panic attacks and I feel that no one else will put up with me. He takes care of me, he cooks and financially supports me. Although he is a great support of things he is not emotionally there, he hardly talks to me and appears miserable a majority amount of the time,, but yet he wont let me go either...I don't know what to do. --You say you are afraid of being alone, but how secure can you feel with someone who is cheating on you? Stop all contact with him, and find a new boyfriend. You deserve better. You deserve your OWN boyfriend, one that will be faithful to you, one that you can trust. Take a look at www.dontdatehimgirl.com It has thousands of guys who cheat on their wives, cheat on their girlfriends. You want a boyfriend who isn't on there. My boyfriend has a foot fetish. He says that all his past relationships ( he is 40 & I'm 34) have been based on feet. He says he really loves me and doesn't want our relationship based on feet but on love. Therefore, he won't pay any attention to my feet. I see him staring at other women's feet and he recently told me that he had not had sex with a girl recently, but had played with her feet. He says that it will never happen again, but I'm afraid that it will. He thinks that this fetish makes him weird, but I tell him that I'm open to exploring this with him. . . it sort of turns me on. Any advice? --I don't think a foot fetish is anything to worry about, along as it is with you. If he has already decided that he loves you, then he should let you explore the foot fetish with him. Thanks for the reply. What can I do to make him realize that by exploring the 'foot' thing, that it won't ruin our relationship. He still thinks that we shouldn't do it, but I'm afraid that if he isn't doing it with me, it will be someone else. --Explain to him that you already have a solid relationship, and this will only enhance it. My boyfriend of 3 years just got this great job opportunity in a different state about 6 hours away. I'm still not done with school. He says I should transfer colleges and live with him and he'll pay for everything. Which sounds kind of weird seeing that we live together now and he doesn't ever give me a break with any of the bills, even when I am broke with no money I still owe him when I get more money. I kind of think its selfish of him to just have me leave everything here for him. I'm kind of stuck with I love him should I move or should I stay here and finish up school. I know it would be very difficult living 6 hours away from each other. We live together now and see each other every day. Should I move or should I stay.........??? Sincerely, Indecisive girl. -- If you feel your relationship is on shaky ground, it might help for both of you to take a break. He will learn to pay all the bills all by himself, and he will appreciate you more. You can take the time to decide if you really want to move. I like 2 guys both funny sensitive understanding and really cute. Someone told me one of them liked me and the other one asked if I liked him. I said I didn't, but I do. What do I say to them? And how do I know if they like me? -- If you like him, tell him. Be nice to both of them, and see which one asks you out.
I dont' know exactly where this would fit in, it's
kind of a combination of a bunch of different problems.
I've been in a relationship for the past year and
a half. I live with my significant other, and his two children. One is
four and the other will be two very soon. For a while now we haven't been
intimate, and I'm not really sure why, but I think the spark went out of our
relationship a long time ago. It just feels like we're really good friends now
who happen to sleep in the same bed.
He's been in and out of jobs since I've
lived here and I've been working at the same place since I moved here from out
of state. He was going to school but ended up losing his Pell grant because of
grades. He's a really great guy but I feel like I'm the only one doing
anything responsibly around here, and I absolutely adore the kids.
Lately he has even less money and I've been
working my butt off for minimum wage, just to barely pay the bills, and we
still end up behind. It's really stressful.
Well about four days ago we received 30 days
notice to leave our house. Our landlord has always been a jerk and now he's
kicking us out. We had a plan to move in about six months after we had some
money saved up. We were going to move and a friend of ours had money saved up
to help us with our move and to move in with us so the rent wouldn't be
as expensive and we could cut utilities into thirds to pay them all.
Well my boyfriend still wants to move but I think
it's way too soon. A month and neither one of us have any money saved up for
such a big move. He has a guaranteed job when he gets down to where we were
going to move but I don't. I don't know what to do.
I talked to my mom and my family and I have the
option of just packing up all my stuff and going home. I'm a very home
oriented person and it's been really awful not being near my family. When I
told him, he said I should do what makes me happy. My best friend where we
were going to move said I would just be running away, and that I have to grow
up sometime and get out on my own. She also said she would be really hurt if I
moved away because she moved down there to be closer to me.
It made me really upset. I don't know what to do
and I only have a couple of weeks to decide. I feel like I'm being torn in
half.
--I think you need to take some time for
yourself, and figure out what you want out of life. You can't continue to
work at minimum wage, and you can't stay with someone just for his kids.
Only move home if it is an opportunity to further your education and get a
better job. You gave this man a year and a half of your life, and you
watched him lose several jobs, and fail out of school. He may have a
guaranteed job waiting for him when he moves, but you have no guaranty that
he will keep the job. He is not a keeper.
I meet this guy through Bp a popular place were allot of people be. So we talked for a about 1-2 months before we meet up. Recently I found out that he has a girlfriend and I had the pleasure of meeting her. She's a very nice person but he continues to talk to me and her and he apologized to me and her at the same time. They explained to me what the deal was and it so happens that she is in Kansas and we are in Washington Dc. He loves her and has fallen in love with me. I like him allot and I'm wondering what I should do?
--You stop all contact with him, and find a
new boyfriend. You deserve better. You deserve your OWN boyfriend, one
that will be faithful to you, one that you can trust. Take a look at
www.dontdatehimgirl.com It has thousands of guys who cheat on their
wives, cheat on their girlfriends. You want a boyfriend who isn't on there.
About a year ago, my best friend was seeing this guy. They went out a couple of times. However, he had a busy schedule, she got impatient, and got involved with another guy. They drifted apart. A couple of months ago, he and I started emailing each other just talking about general stuff. He wanted to meet me but I said I would feel weird because of my friend. Recently though he asked me for coffee just to meet, I said yes, we accidentally talked for 3 hours! Now I have a movie date with him. My friend is hurt. Now I don't know what to do. The guy seems really nice, but my friend who has a new boyfriend says she's territorial about old boyfriends. Some people told me it's a no-go with friends but then some people say as long as they weren't exclusive or intimate it's fine. I'm so stressed and confused. Please help me. -- I don't think your friend has a right to tell you that you can't date someone she broke up with a year ago, especially when she has a new boyfriend. I say go ahead and date him, it might not even turn into something serious. -- My roommate was dating two guys at once. She wanted me to cover up for her, but I wouldn't do it. Two years after they broke up, one of them asked me out. We are now married with two kids. My old roommate was so angry she wouldn't come to our wedding. I figure that's her problem. She didn't think he was that important while they were dating. There's a boy that I like and I really like him but my best friends came after 3 months and he just jumped from me to her. He knows I like him, and my best friend knows I like him. I know he likes me but he probably thinks we should just be friends. What am I to do? And plus me and my family are moving to another state. -- You need to think more of yourself and set higher standards. She wasn't much of a best friend to steal your boyfriend, and why would you want to stay friends with a boy who dumped you for your best friend? Be glad you are moving. You need to make new friends who treat you better. You deserve better. I was entertaining on a Saturday evening, when a guy I occasionally date showed up at my door with videos and snacks. I told him I already had plans. Why on earth would he do this without calling first? It's not like we are dating exclusively. I was very embarrassed, especially with another gentleman already in my living room. You shouldn't have opened the door, that would have saved on the embarrassment. But he has certainly learned his lesson about calling first! I am a single mom in my twenties, and when I am not in a serious relationship, I date more than one guy at a time. One guy I really like and would like it to be more serious, but he doesn't call for weeks, and then he calls on a Thursday to ask me out for that weekend. It is impossible to get a babysitter on that short of notice, and I usually already have a date by then. I would love to see him. What do I do? You need to spell it out for him, because he just isn't getting it. Just tell him you would rather spend more time with him, than see other people, but he has to plan ahead. Explain how much notice you need to get a sitter. He is probably just new to the dating game and doesn't know all the rules to dating a mom. I am a single mom with a 5-year-old. I am trying to find a husband and father for my son. I want more kids someday. I am tired of dating guys who are afraid of commitment, or who have had vasectomies. What do I do? Quit treating it like dating, and start interviewing for a husband. Instead of checking out cute guys and hoping for attraction, ask all the important questions first, then see if you are compatible. I like 2 guys . . . and one if them is my
boyfriend but I think I like the other guy allot more . . . but I don't
know who to choose . . . I want to break up with my boyfriend but I don't
want to hurt him. My best friend's boyfriend just broke up with her and she's REALLY upset!! What do I say . . . or do!! Well, a bottle of wine and some chocolate are a good bet. A video is a good idea, but she has to decide if she wants to cry and get it all out of her system, or watch a funny video and get her mind off of it. Some favorites that make you feel empowered as a woman are: The Beauty Shop, Erin Brokovitch, Charlie's Angels, and Ms. Congeniality 2. I moved in with my boyfriend of 6 months. His old girlfriend was pregnant, he said it wasn't his. We were all ready to get married, when she had the baby, and it IS his. He told me not to worry, because he doesn't want visitation, but he is very angry about having to pay child support. Should I still marry him? --NO. Any man who runs away from responsibility, and wants nothing to do with his own child, is not husband material and is not father material. You can do better. I am 22 and not a virgin. In fact, I lived with my last boyfriend for a year. I have gorgeous boyfriend now. He looks like a young Alec Baldwin, but he is not very affectionate. We have been dating for almost 2 years, and we can spend a whole day together, meals, studying, watching movies on TV. I want to get all cuddly and affectionate, and I barely get a kiss goodnight. Does this mean he is serious about me? Is he just saving sex for marriage? Two years and no sex? Are you kidding? No, he is gay and he hasn't come to terms with it yet. Find a new boyfriend. I just want to say that you should never date a married man. I know that when you are single, and you are aware of how many people cheat, it seems like no big deal. But now that I am married, I think it is horrible! At age 22 I had no business dating my 32-year-old married boss, let alone marrying him. Now we have had a baby together and he is cheating on me! Don't make the mistake I did! I just want to say that gay guys should learn to deal with the fact that they are gay, and leave us women alone. This is the 3rd time I have dated a gorgeous single guy for several weeks, and felt like there was something wrong with me because I never got a kiss good-night, and I was hoping it would turn into something serious. Then I ask around and find out that NO ONE has EVER gotten a kiss good-night! What a total waste of my time. I agree. Unfortunately some guys can't handle reality, and keep fooling themselves into thinking if they just found the right girl, they would get in the mood. I started dating this guy from school. He is very hairy. I didn't realize how hairy until we were invited to a pool party. He had enough hair on his back to braid it, make a rug, and have some left over. I was so embarrassed! Now I am so grossed out that I don't even want to kiss him anymore. He is really fun and we used to have such a great time together. What do I do? This is NOT something you break up over. This is something that can be easily fixed with shaving or waxing. Hang in there. My friends told me that I have to "try" to go all the way with a girl on the first date, because I am a guy. But then when she gives in, I am disappointed and lose respect for her. What do I do? That is archaic. What dating genius gave you that advice? A kiss on the first date is as far as you should go. I was dating a gentleman for over a year, we were friends for a long time before that. I broke up with him because he couldn't seem to make his life move forward. I just ran into him last week. He gave me a big hug and a kiss and said he is still in love with me, but nothing else about his life has changed. Although he is living on his own, he still hasn't filed for divorce or separation, he still hasn't taken a parenting course, enforced the word "no", or learned how to get his kids to bed on time (10 is too late for a 5-year-old!) I love this man, but I can't wait forever for him to get his life together, and I certainly don't want over-tired unruly kids. What do I do? Make a list of your requirements, give him a copy, and tell him to call you when he has accomplished them. Don't hold your breath. My boyfriend keeps talking about his ex-girlfriends, ALLOT. Clothes she wore, favorite movie, favorite song, favorite position. He sounds like he is obsessed with them, yet he keeps insisting he is glad they broke up, and that now he loves me. I am just so tired of hearing about them! Oh, it sounds like it is time to reiterate the dating rules of conversation. Don't talk about exes, or moms, or your childhood. Keep the conversation current, and have a working knowledge of current events, the daily news, and it doesn't hurt to know a few jokes. Maybe the two of you could rent the movie "Prime", where a young man learns how to be more grown-up on a date. INTERESTING CONVERSATION TOPICS for when you have run out of things to say: 1. What was your worst date? 2. What is the funniest prank you ever played on anyone? 3. What was your most embarrassing moment? 4. When have you laughed your hardest? 5. Who is your favorite comedian and why? 6. If you could guest star in any TV. show, what would it be? 7. If you could write your own episode of a TV. show, what would it be? What do I do with my old jewelry? I just got engaged to a wonderful man and I don't think it is right to have gold necklaces, earrings, etc. from old boyfriends. One friend of mine said to give it back, but seriously, am I supposed to track down every guy I ever dated since 10th grade and say "Here is the Valentine's necklace, here are the Birthday earrings". I mean really, what are they going to do with them? You could sell the jewelry on E-bay or at a pawn shop, then take the money and buy your mom or your sister a nice piece of jewelry. Or you could give the money to a local charity for someone who needs medical treatment. Good for you for making a fresh start without old memories. I'm sure your husband-to-be will appreciate it. I love it when my girlfriend puts on makeup, and dresses pretty. But she only does this a couple times a week when we go out for a date. Why can't she make more of an effort the rest of the time? I don't expect her to look like a model, but old t-shirts and no make-up every day just aren't doing it for me. My sisters look better than this on a daily basis, so I know I'm not being unreasonable. I don't want to sound shallow or hurt her feelings, what do I do? Wow, this is a tough one. I have a friend who didn't catch on that she needed to try harder with her appearance until after her husband left her. Can you take her shopping for clothes? Take her out to breakfast someplace nice so she will make and effort and look good for the rest of the day? Can you have her friends or your sisters talk with her? I think shopping for new clothes is a good idea. Then suggest that both of you clean out your closets of your old clothes. Is she depressed? It sounds like she is suffering from low self esteem. She feels bad on the inside, so it shows on the outside. My husband used to wear embarrassing clothes. So I cleaned out his closet, and hid two garbage bags of the worst clothes in the attic. When he still hadn't noticed they were missing a year later, then I donated them to the Rescue Mission. How much of an effort do you make with your appearance? Do you set a good example? Can you honestly say that you try to look your best every day? If you can say yes, and you are very brave, you can sit her down and say "Honey, I love you. And one way that I show that I care about you, is when I try my best to look good for you, every day, because I want you to be proud of me. Do you think you can do the same for me? It would mean so much to me if you did." I am 25 and I have a new friend, and we have been spending a lot of time together. Someone asked me if we were dating and I said no, we are just friends. He got very upset and said we have been dating for 2 months. I had no idea. He has never even tried to kiss me good night, he has never looked at me like I am attractive. I have 2 friends who have told me horror stories about getting married, and then their husband only gets in the mood once a month. Should I break up with this guy? Maybe he is just scared. Try teaching him to kiss first. Give him another couple weeks. If he still seems like a cold fish. Then break up. I want to ask a girl on a date, but I am scared. What do I do? Smile. Look her right in the eye and sound confident. If you don't feel confident, pretend that you are. Pretend you are Ashton Kutcher, and be convincing. Don't vaguely ask her if she would like to get together sometime. Make it sound fun and interesting. I have tickets to ________. Would you like to join me? Are you free for dinner on Friday? I think you would really like ____________ restaurant, their ___________ is delicious. Offer to double date with her best friend or your best friend. I am 13 and I like this girl I met at the pool. I want her to be my girlfriend. My friend said I have to French kiss her. Do I? No. Just give her a nice sweet kiss. After you know each other better, let her make the first move. It was my first date with this guy, and when he came to pick me up he stank so much of cologne, he about knocked me over. Then he kept trying to link arms with me, put his arm around me, help me into the car. Pretty soon I stank as much as he did. By the end of the night, I was totally grossed out. Now he keeps calling, he even sent me a balloon bouquet at work. What do I do? Many people don't understand how much perfume/cologne to wear. He has no idea and the kindest thing to do is just tell him. Accept another date with him, and say "I forgot to mention that I have allergies/sensitivity to smells. Could you please not wear any cologne/aftershave on our next date?" He obviously likes you, and he won't mind. I Was Told copyright 2006 |
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