I am depressed constantly and so are my friends. We are typically EMO now if you don't know what Emo is look it up on Google. I usually have many sober problems but I feel like coming out of my closet  about this so DON'T EMAIL ME IN YOU LAME COMMENTS!!

Depressed soul

I have been told that my 14 year old daughter can move out of home and move in with her boyfriends family.  Is this correct?

-- To live on your own without parental supervision is called emancipation.  The age of emancipation differs from state to state.  Go to this web site to look up the laws for your state.  If you have problems, let me know and I will help.

http://www.law.cornell.edu/topics/Table_Emancipation.htm

Me and my best friend have hit a rough spot in our friendship. Me and another really great friend of mine were pulling this prank on my best friend. She reacted horribly. When I tried to tell her it was a joke she wouldn't talk to me. We've always gotten over our problems in less that two days but it doesn't seem like that this time. She hasn't talked to me in two days. Most people say give it time it will blow over but I'm dying because I'm loosing my best friend.....what should I do?  
Sincerely,    Brittney

-- Well, you've learned not to pull pranks anymore.  Hopefully, if you are sincere with your apology, make it clear you know you are wrong, and promise never to pull pranks again, she will come around.  But it might take more than a couple of days.

I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. It seemed like fate. Not only did our friends who introduced us think we were perfect together, but we could see it and feel it too. Everything has been wonderful. We have been having fun in every way, as well as learning so much about each other. But overnight, it all went the other direction. He said he was confused with himself, and needed to get his priorities together. He said he needed space. Which to me sound like bye. But he said he didn't want me to disappear, just give him time. Ok then! But he doesn't' want to talk on the phone, see me, or anything. I take that as he wants nothing to do with me. He says he mad at himself and doesn't want to say anything wrong to me. but want a future with me after he has his space. What should I think of this?

I have been married for 6 yrs to a great girl. Before we got married though I met and hung around another girl, just friends, but we work with each other I have always had feelings for her but not of a romantic nature but I seem to now have some . She is married to but I think she has the same feelings . I don't know what to do.

Hi. I'm 21 and I have a wonderful boyfriend who I have been with for over two years. I love him dearly and I could not imagine life without him. However, I have recently become very attracted to one of my best girl friends. I fantasize about having sex with girls a lot and I never fantasize about men. I have made out with girls on two separate occasions, but I have never gone past that.
 
My question is, how should I handle the enormous crush I have on my girl friend? She flirts a lot with me and I know she's gay. She has told me that she likes me a lot and we both wonder what it would be like to be in a relationship. I don't want to feel like I'm cheating on my boyfriend, but I also feel like I need to get this  experimentation out of the way. Is it possible to keep my boyfriend, but to experiment with this girl? How should I talk to my guy about it and what should I do about this girl? how should I approach her?

-- You are better off figuring out your sexual orientation now, than having it break up your marriage and family in a few years.  Take a break from your boyfriend, and try to figure out things.  You already know this girl is interested in you, just let her know that you are available.

This April my only brother who was just turning 20, October 1, committed suicide. it is the hardest thing to overcome, and I act so strong to people but I just cant get over it one bit, his room, things he made me, pictures, they all make me BURST OUT CRYING.  everyone tells me I should be ok now, but I'm not! I don't know where to turn, it's like I have none to talk to that helps me, they usually make it harder, could you help me attempt to overcome my brothers death.

-- I am so sorry for your loss.  You need to find a grief counselor, and join a grief group.  They can help you work through a plan of dealing with your brother's death.  You need to understand that he died of a serious illness, it's called depression.

I just like to know what I can do to save my marriage. The problem that I have is that I don't know how to respond to my husbanding taking "co-workers" women out to a nice dinner and drinks and he stays out till-midnight. He says it is business and brushes it off and when I try to express how I feel he tells me to get over it. Well I feel that maybe he is not interested in me anymore seeing he has never taken me out to a nice dinner and drinks. He is nice to everyone he meets and puts his best foot out there. I don't know what I should do to get overcome this in my life. I have three children and what ever I do they will be affected. I love them and want to spare them any hurt.

-- If he won't go to marriage counseling, then you need to get into counseling for yourself, and get a lawyer to protect your assets

When I was 11, I had a supposed *best mate* who I personally thought I got on well with but she called me boring & moody so one day I figured I should not take that from her & ditched her. Through the next year I came from feeling awkward, shy & hating who I was to sexy *laughs!*, happy & free by teaching myself how. I found lots of new friends who appreciate & love me & a new best mate who idolizes me & thinks I'm awesome and tells me she wants to be like me. I finally felt I loved myself but I still didn’t have all the glory I thought I needed, I was still searching for something more! So I tried to change myself even though I loved it & now I think I’m just confident but not content. I HATE IT but love it when my best mate says she wants to be like me;; its a tangled load of emotions, to go from a best mate who trashed who I was to some one who loves it so much she wants to be like me! I guess some part of me didn’t think I deserved it & a feel that a part of me will always believe that I am moody & boring because some one I loved & trusted and I thought knew  me told me so. I get nervous talking to boys because the fears of what she told me always make me afraid to talk to them too much or trust them in case they tell me the same. I don’t value her or like her anymore but she wrecked something for me & I don’t know because she is a very insecure person but sometimes other people call me moody and its so hard for me because it backs up a belief i already have!  I guess I wont ever feel good enough unless I’m good enough for them which is ironic because most of me feels good enough just not that part... help me please!

-- Who are you now?  You are a young teenager who is trying to find herself.  You are emotional and moody, and that is normal.  Don't let one bad comment from an ex-friend define your personality.  If you are really worried, here are some books you can read:  Marla Paul The Friendship Crisis, The Art of Making and Keeping Friends, 
Friendship: How to Make and Keep Friends by Herbert M. Dawley, Mike Frazier

I have a 8 year old son and all he does is whine about everything. If something does not go his way, if he tries something and can't do it the first time. And especially when he is told to do something. I don't mean just fuss I mean he will start crying and whining over everything. We have tried several different things with him to  include spending more time doing the things he wants, to taking his privileges away when he gets to far out of control. He is a very intelligent child he get a A's on each of his report card and he doesn't act like this at school or at his friends houses. My ex and I have a very good relationship and we communicate on a daily basis not only does he act like that when he is with me but he acts like that when he is with his father. I don't understand it I have never seen a young boy act like he is 3 or 4 yrs old instead of 8.

When you say no, do you mean it?  Or do you let him get away with something 3 or 4 times before you actually enforce it?  I would suggest getting your son in counseling, and you and your ex taking a parenting course.  Good luck!

I started seeing this guy about 4 months ago and we used 2 text every day without fail and now he never bothers 2 even text me back so I have 2 call him 2 speak 2 him! its great while I'm with him but it's horrible when I'm not! does he still want 2 be with me or am I being paranoid? I really care about him and I don't want 2 lose him!

-- At the beginning of a relationship, you are in a "sparkly" stage, when you can't get enough of each other.  Relax a little.  If you appear to clingy, he will run for the hills.

I've been involved with a guy for 3 years.  He finally told me he wasn't interested in pursuing a real relationship because I am diabetic and because of my heart rate unable to workout.  (I'm 120lbs and 5'6")  (I'm not fat.)  He works out a lot.  He's a liar.  A cheater.  What I want to know is how to close the door and get over  the pain he has caused me.  I've never been ashamed of my disease and now feel like it is something I should apologize for.  I feel like I need to tell him what a jerk he is. . .but just can't.  How do I let him know what he said is very cruel.  I asked him to tell me the truth...but seriously who says that to someone?

I have a dilemma. I just found out that my supervisor's brother has been thinking about asking me out on a date. I'm not sure what to do. My supervisor was the person who told me about him. She asked me if she could talk to me about something in private. When we were alone, she told me that her brother and her had been talking and he asked her if she knew if I was dating anyone. She told him that as far as she knew I wasn't so he told her that he has been thinking about asking me out. She asked me if it would be ok with me if she gave him my # and he could call me. I thought about it for a minute and thought why not so I gave her the number to give to him. Then my supervisor kind of surprised me by telling me that she wanted to warn me about him. she told me that he is a "player" and she doesn't want me to get hurt because she thinks I'm really nice.  Any way, he called me about two weeks later but I wasn't home so I didn't get to talk to him and I haven't returned his call yet because I don't know what to do. On one hand, I could call him back and we get to know each other better and things are good or on the other hand, I could call him and we date for a while and then break up. I don't want my supervisor to feel like she has to pick sides with someone because that would make things very uncomfortable all around. What should I do?

-- I guess I don't understand why your Supervisor would suggest going out with him, if he is a "player".  If he weren't her brother, would you be interested?  Don't date him if you feel obligated, but don't pass up a great opportunity just because it could be awkward.  Go with your gut feeling.

I am a Christian man that is married to a Muslim woman. of course I had to become Muslim on paper to be married to her because we were married in an Islamic country. but in my heart I remain Christian.  She knows this now and is leaving me. we love each other but she feels she is doing wrong in gods eyes by staying with me and my heart believes in Jesus. in my heart I love her and I accept that she is a Muslim. I would never change that about her. she tells me know after we are married that she believed in her heart that I would see that Islam is the right way and become a Muslim, that is why she married me. but obviously this did not happen. I have read  the Koran and many other books, articles, and literature about Islam. I tried but I can never be a Muslim, I do not believe it is the right way. anyway this does not change my love for my wife. I love her and she is leaving me and I have no idea what to do. does anyone have any advice for me. I know what Muslim men will say believe me I know all about it. I am looking for constructive thoughts or real advice.

-- I'm so sorry.  It's too bad that religion tears apart people and nations, when God should be bringing us together.  Many people stay in a loving marriage even though they are different religions.  Keep praying for her and let her know that you love her no matter what.  Here is a web site with support and advice on many religions.
http://www.factnet.org/discus/messages/3/3.html?1160254611

-- He has no proof that you put it up there, and he can't sue you.  If you will notice, there are several lawyers on www.dontdatehimgirl.com and they can't figure out how to remove themselves.

Liable, Slander and defamation of Character are only if you say something untrue.  The truth stands.

My boyfriend says that he has a foot fetish. I am totally cool with this and would like to explore it with him. however, he says that he can't have love and feet with one woman. the last woman he tried this with ended up cheating on him. he told me last night that he loves me and will never have sex with anyone else, but that I have to be willing for him to go with some other woman to put her feet on his face. I don't understand and would love if you have some insight on this. we have dated 10 months and live together. thank you. oh, I'm 34 and he's 40

-- You have offered to explore his fetish with him, and he has turned you down. It is NOT okay for him to explore this fetish with other women. The choice is up to him, you, or strange feet.

My wife & I have recently divorced after a six year separation, with her living with our son in the family home, while I live in a single bed-sit. I don't earn enough to get a 2nd mortgage, & don't want to disrupt my sons life. What can I do to get my half of the equity of our house, so that I can provide for a better standard of living for when my son visits me?

-- You need to get an attorney to help you divide the assets equitably and fairly.

I've been living with my boyfriend for a year. We get along great except that I get jealous at times. He recently opened a "Myspace" account and now ex girlfriends and old girls from high school chat with him online. Some of these girls are very flirty with him, even though they know he has a girlfriend. One girl wrote that "he is so handsome, she wished he wasn't taken" She gave him her phone number and he has it in his phone now. The whole thing makes me sick! When I get upset about it he says he loves me, he would never cheat on me and I'm over reacting, and pushing him away with all my jealousy...I have been cheated on in past relationships and I can't help that I get nervous easily. I think it is horrible that he chats with girls that have been with him in the past or wish they could be with him now. What should I do? Am I over reacting?

-- I can understand why you are jealous, but try to understand how this feels to him. He is so happy with you, that he is thoroughly enjoying throwing it in the face of all his ex-girlfriends. Can you see how happy that makes him? Remember, you are LIVING with him, they only get to chat on-line with you. You have it made.

Here is my situation.  I have been married for only 4 years but have known my husband for 9.  He is 28 and I am 26 and we have been together since we were young.  He supported me while I went to school and after I got my degree and a job we got married.  My husband lost his primary job about three years ago and I am now paying all the bills. He makes some money repairing small gas engines and lawn mowers and some odd car repairs but I never see it.  He doesn't clean up after himself sleeps whenever he wants.  Whenever I try to talk to him about his contribution and to get him to get a steady job, he tells me everything is okay and if I push him on it he gets angry and won't talk at all.  He and I enjoy our sex life, but I from time to time cant stand to be with him (even though he is great in bed) and I have not had sex with him for some times over two months.  He thinks I have sex issues and often accuses me of being with someone else or calls me a cold bitch but I have never cheated on him.  He wont see a counselor with me and wont do anything to change things.  Should I divorce him or keep pushing for counseling.  I really love him so divorce would be hard and I so want to have kids someday.  Please help!

I have an issue that I need to address but I don't know how to go about it.

A few weeks ago, I went to a friends wedding without my husband, he had to go to our son's football game. One of my coworkers was also at the wedding, she's divorced.

After a few drinks, we got silly however, neither of us were drunk. A slow song came on and I wanted to dance but didn't know too many people at the wedding. My coworker "Amy" said "C'mon, I'll dance with you." So, we dance the slow dance and after it was over, we kissed each other & I started to leave the dance floor. Another slow song "Let's Get It On" came on and she said, "Hey, where are you going?"
So I went back and we danced to the next song but our hands were all over each other and "other" body parts were touching, it looked like we getting it on, we kissed again.

The problem, I really enjoyed the dancing with her and I think she did too. I would like to ask her to go out dancing and possibly making out but I am worried about how to go about bringing up the subject just in case she isn't feeling as I do. I think she is interested as we have been flirting with each other but neither of us wants to be the first to say something about that night because we don't know how the other will react.

I am definitely straight as is she but I found this encounter interesting, enjoyable.

How do I bring up the subject of what we did at the wedding? Should I forget about it? I really don't want to forget about it.
Help!

-- You really don't want to risk your marriage and your family life on this one. Avoid her, she isn't worth the problems you could cause.

My Chihuahua gave birth to three puppies recently, ad since the puppies were born, my male has not been eating like he was, before the puppies were born. He's acting normal in every other way except eating. Before the birth of the puppies, I had no problem, getting him to eat. I don't know why this is happening to him, and it's beginning to really scare me. I'm really desperate for some answers. Can anyone help? Serious Answers Only Please!!!

-- If he isn't eating, you need to take him to the Vet.  It may be completely unrelated to the puppies being born.

My Chihuahua has been nursing her 41/2 week old puppies without a problem. The puppies are teething, and now when she tries to nurse, she is very restless and acts like the puppies are hurting her. She still nurses them, but not as much as she was before or as long as before. I just started the puppies on dry dog food mixed with wet
> food and water until it's soft and mushy. Is it safe to also put out some plain dry puppy food and water without having to worry about them choking? Of coarse I'll watch them at first, but will they be ok with it when they are alone? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Serious Answers Only Please!!!

-- Once the teeth have erupted at about 4 weeks of age, the animal may begin to
eat solid foods.

At age 4-5 weeks, offer either canned puppy/kitten food mixed with formula or human baby food (chicken or beef) mixed with formula. Serve warm. Feed 4-5 times a day if not taking a bottle. If still bottle-feeding, offer this at first 2 times a day and continue to bottle-feed at the other feedings. Slowly progress to feeding solid mixture more often, less bottle-feeding. At this age, the animal needs to have its face cleaned with a warm moistened cloth after feedings. Kittens usually begin to clean themselves after feedings when they are 5 weeks old.

At age 5-6 weeks, the animal should begin to lap. Offer either canned kitten/puppy food or moistened kitten/puppy chow. Feed four times a day. Have dry kitten/puppy chow and a bowl of shallow water available at all times.

By 6 weeks of age, most puppies are able to eat dry food.

http://www.animaldefenseleague.org/newborn.htm

Lengthy problem. . . engaged 1 year. Cannot communicate on real level with fiancé, and his family drives me crazy they don't get me either. Don't know how to break cycle, not sure a good way to leave if I need to. Not sure if I have the problem and should seek what kind of help?
 
He is a 'funnyman' but is really robotic, not emotive or feeling. I am really confused by it. It's mostly happy and cutesy but feels very 'surface' to me. I feel unable to speak my mind because we will fight. If I say I should go, he gets emotional for 1 second and then coolly says 'fine, go again'. You see, I have left several times due to not seeing him express feelings and our basic differences (I am physical art health spiritual, he tech, machines, sales, movies junk food ). I don't know what to do. If I bring it up and try to stay and work it out, he gets very mad. He wants me to stay and just accept it.
 
He says 'i cannot be this passionate talk about feelings guy' He thinks I constantly raise the bar of expectation and he never 'gets' what he has to do to make me happy. He really lacks the ability to empathize. Maybe I do? I think he is defensive and uncomfortable with people explaining their side he always thinks its them being difficult.
 
He is physically warm but he dictates it - All interaction he allows is funny joking 'tag lines' and mandatory cuddling and kisses 'that make a smoochy noise' but don't cause any fire. I want some real passion and excitement and deep communication, honesty and working through real problems that arise. If I try for this he says 'not now', 'in a few days', and whines and says 'don't wreck today, please'.
 
We have some sex, not enough, dull, boring. It doesn't help we sleep downstairs from his brother. It started great, sort of. 10 year relationship, on and off since I was 19 he 20. Started with major problems such as his drug use, my depression. Made it through 8 moves pregnancies and miscarriages and many jobs and now we are a lot  better off stability-wise.
 
Finally, this year, I was fed up making money for him to blow, I quit working in corporate world and he made enough money and stayed at a job long enough for me to work only part time and take school.  We afford this by living in his brother's (and family's) basement.
 
In 10 yrs we broke up 3 times. He cheated on me then dumped me and recovered from drugs. Twice he saw someone else. I've been with 9 other men - varying degrees of seriousness - I cheated a few times during these 9 years - flings and a LOVE. (he died last year, not in picture).
 
Mostly when I stay I feel empty, don't know how to fix it, get tired and try to leave.  Don't want to give up really though or hurt him. He is a very happy go lucky does a lot of things right makes everybody laugh kind of guy with a brilliant mind and good looking if a bit lax about his appearance.

I don't want to hurt him and he has made huge improvements over 10 years but I'm only 29... And now that I make so little money I feel stuck here in a small town in his brothers basement. He says he's trying hard to make us more money but "I don't help him". I feel like its finally time to let him handle it and do my own projects instead of helping him on what he decides is important.  HELP any advice appreciated

-- The baseline is, you are not happy and you need to get out. After ten years
together, your relationship should be better, not worse. You should build
each other up, not tear each other down. I hope you have supportive friends and family. Good luck!

I married my second husband 2 years ago, and he is the step father of my 3 children. We are arguing over my 17 year old boy.  His room is in the basement of our house.  My husband hates the fact that he burns incense in his room occasionally.  Should that be such a big deal?  Also, he hates that my son's friends come in and out the basement door, instead of coming in upstairs through the house--he wants to keep an eye on them?  What should I do??  My son is a 4.0 student, has a job, always obeys curfew, and is a great kid---I tell my husband to just leave it alone, but he is STUBBORN and wants it HIS WAY!

I have to get dressed in front of people at P.E.  What do I do?

-- Remember that the other people in the locker room are just as uncomfortable as you. Don't stare, and make sure you are very clean--shower and shampoo every day, wear clean clothes, use deodorant. Know that life is not a swim suit competition. I know it is a shocker at first, but you will get used to it.

My son his wife and their 2 children 15 & 12 boys went camping over the weekend.  While they were gone the 15 year old boy friends came to the house got in stole my sons wife car and hit and ran another vehicle at a gas station.  They did other things in the house and they spent the night.   We are just finding out about some more of the details what should we do?

-- Call the police, and tell your son and his wife about all the details. I would advise the 15-year-old to make new friends.

I want to stay home from school on Septmber,11th. I am really scared. I watched a movie about it and cried all night. I draw pictures talk about it and write poetry. My mom says that if you get scared the good guys win. I need help. I am terrified!!

--There are many dates of wars, major battles and acts of terrorism. You can't stay home on all of them. I realize this one seems scarier and more real because it recently happened on U.S. soil. Can you talk to your school counselor about your anxiety?

I keep getting conflicting information about ,if I can use my British television and plumbing accessories in Spain??????????

The electrical current in Spain is 200 volts, 50 cycles AC. Plugs are of the continental type, with two round prongs.

My last period started on 12.08.06, I had unprotected sexual intercourse in the early hours of Sunday 27.08.06. As I am aware I ovulated on Saturday 26.08.06. What are my chances of becoming pregnant and when can I do a test I can't wait another week to see if I've missed my period is there anyway I can find out now. I've tried other websites and they have been useless. Please Help me.

-- Go ahead and take a pregnancy test. I once took a test a week before my period was due and it came out positive already. If it comes out negative and you still haven't had your period, take it again in a week.

The very first day I met my husband, we had a connection. We both felt very comfortable and it was so easy to be together. Things progressed quickly. We moved in together after 4 months. Never talked about marriage, but he shocked me with a proposal after a year.
 
We waited one year to get married, and have now been together for 5 years. I love him dearly- he is a GREAT guy. Always polite, always considerate. But, there is no spark. There never really has been. We didn't even have sex on our wedding night. I fear that we got married because it was comfortable. He swears that he loves me more than anything, but I am the only girl he's really been with. I had been with one person before him.
 
We're totally co-dependant. He is my comfort zone and I make ALL of the decisions. I've told him SO many times how much it bothers me that I have to "wear the pants". He even jokes to his friends that I have such a tight lease on him. I don't want it! We talk and talk and nothing happens. I've offered suggestions. I've tried to be even more passive than he is. It didn't work.
 
I've been trying to leave for a year. I love him like my best friend. The last thing I want to do is hurt him. I don't like who I am with him! I get so irritable with him. I resent him for "making me" handle everything. And of course, there is nothing happening in the bedroom- see lack of spark comment above. I feel like his mother.

You would think that's enough drama, but there's more. The same day I told him it was over, I met someone. Maybe I was vulnerable, I don't know, but I've got all of these very intense feelings that I've never had before, and I'm trying not to let it go anywhere. I cut off contact, but I still have the feelings.

I told my husband all of this. He thinks it's a phase and desperately wants to work things out. I don't want to lose my life with him. Is being comfortable and kind to each other enough? We're separated right now and I hurt him more every day. If I want to salvage this, I have to do it soon. What should I do?

-- Have you tried marriage counseling? Has he seen a doctor to find out why he has a low sex drive? The bottom line is, are you happy? Because if you aren't, it is best to end the marriage before you start having children.