ORGASMS

I am 15, and I just told my parents I am a lesbian last year. Now my dad is all upset to find out I am sexually active. I have been having sleepovers at my girlfriends' for years. What does he think we have been doing? Duh!

It sounds like your dad is having troubles adjusting to your sexual orientation. Give him some PFLAG brochures and suggest that he attend some meetings.

Lately when I have an orgasm (this either when I am having intercourse with my fiancé or if we are just touching each other), I get pain in my right lower side. Just above my leg, like my hip area. It doesn't hurt the whole time and it isn't like a sharp pain just an ache right when my climax starts. I would appreciate some advice. Thank You!

--Just to be safe, I think you should see a doctor about this. There are major arteries traveling through each leg, and an orgasm increases blood flow. This could be a sign of a problem like a blood clot.

My boyfriend has a foot fetish. He says that all his past relationships ( he is 40 & I'm 34) have been based on feet. He says he really loves me and doesn't want our relationship based on feet but on love. Therefore, he won't pay any attention to my feet. I see him staring at other women's feet and he recently told me that he had not had sex with a girl recently, but had played with her feet. He says that it will never happen again, but I'm afraid that it will. He thinks that this fetish makes him weird, but I tell him that I'm open to exploring this with him. . . it sort of turns me on. Any advice?

I don't think a foot fetish is anything to worry about, along as it is with you. If he has already decided that he loves you, then he should let you explore the foot fetish with him.

-- Masturbating is touching yourself sexually and creating your own orgasm. Masturbating is completely healthy, just like eating and sleeping and exercise. There is nothing wrong with it.

A vibrator is about the size of a pen, it is battery operated, and used to stimulate an orgasm. There is a definite difference between a vibrator induced orgasm and an orgasm produced by other means. A vibrator orgasm is much more intense.

I'm only 11 years old but I'm having feelings. I started having these feelings when I was 9. I keep having these feelings telling me to have sex. But I'm not ready. But I'm ready to have a boyfriend but I can't until I'm 16. But I had some before. I'm so confused. Please help me.

--Try having your own orgasm, then you won't need a boyfriend to do it for you. Masturbating is completely healthy, just like eating and sleeping and exercise. There is nothing wrong with it.

I think you should find a boyfriend who doesn't already have a girlfriend. Do you really want a boyfriend who cheats on you? Don't fall in love with a boy just because he is cute, choose the boy who treats you the best.

I think you should go to Planned Parenthood or a free clinic for the rash, and in the future, use condoms. Your mom would certainly want to know that her boyfriend made a pass at you.

I am a father with 3 teenage daughters, and I think maybe I should talk to them about birth control, and have them go on the pill. How do I brooch this subject?

You don't need to talk to them about birth control, you need to talk to them about AIDS. Getting pregnant will not kill them, AIDS will. Some teenage girls engage in oral sex, to save their virginity for marriage. They need to learn that condoms are necessary all the time. It can save their life!

I just had a hysterectomy, for health reasons. My husband keeps wanting to have sex, but I feel so dry, it hurts!

Buy some KY Jelly at the drug store. Put some on him, put some on you, use lots. Have fun!

I can clearly hear my roommate and her boyfriend when he spends the night. They sound like they are having more fun than I do with my boyfriend. What if you are not sure if you have had an orgasm?

If you are not sure, then you haven't. You have to learn how. Explore your own body. You can't expect your boyfriend to give you an orgasm, if you don't know how to do it yourself.

My brother and I are 14, and our mom just sat us down and had the sex talk (kinda late). Each of us has been masturbating since we were about 10. Now all of a sudden she is telling us it is a sin. Is that true? It's not in the 10 Commandments, and it's never been discussed in confirmation class.

Your mother is just a little behind the times, and a little naive. Masturbating is completely healthy, just like eating and sleeping and exercise. There is nothing wrong with it. Just remember it is something private, not to be done in front of your friends.

I am 17 and my dad just found out that I own a vibrator. He hit the roof! He keeps wanting to "blame" someone for "corrupting" me. I don't see what the big deal is. I have been masturbating since I was 4. I walked into an adult bookstore with a friend, and we each bought a vibrator. Heck, you can buy them at Spencer's Gifts at the Mall. They didn't ask for I.D. It's not like I am watching porn and want to be a stripper some day.

Your father is just a little behind the times, and a little naive. Masturbating is completely healthy, just like eating and sleeping and exercise. There is nothing wrong with it. But if you are sexually active with a partner, make sure you use condoms.